Sex & intimacy therapy
Sex & Intimacy Therapy in Boulder, Colorado
Intimacy is about more than sex. Sex is about everything else.
In-person counseling in Boulder, Colorado Online throughout Colorado
Sex therapy and intimacy therapy often overlap, but they offer different starting points for understanding your experience.
Intimacy therapy focuses on the emotional connection that helps us feel close, safe, and understood. It can help when you feel distant or unseen, struggle to be vulnerable, get caught in familiar communication patterns, or want to rebuild closeness after conflict, life changes, or changes in your body. Intimacy isn't separate from sex; emotional safety, trust, and connection can all shape how we experience desire and pleasure.
Sex therapy focuses more directly on desire, arousal, pleasure, sexual expression, and concerns that arise in your sexual life. This might mean navigating differences in desire, understanding changes in arousal, working through shame or physical pain, improving sexual communication, or exploring questions about your sexuality. Together, we'll get curious about where your desires come from, what they mean to you, and what might be getting in the way of pleasure, agency, and authentic self-expression.
With both topics, we will notice whether you are acting from constriction or expansion. If there is something you are ready to expand, pleasure you are willing to claim, or agency you want to wield, sex + intimacy therapy may be the right fit.
Whether you come on your own or with a partner, sex and intimacy therapy offers space to understand yourself more deeply, communicate more honestly, and build a relationship with pleasure and connection that feels like your own.
Session fees
| Session length | Couples | Individuals |
|---|---|---|
| 55 minutes | $185 | $150 |
| 75 minutes | $265 | $215 |
| 90 minutes | $310 | $250 |
Ask about Mentaya for out-of-network insurance reimbursement help.
If finances are a barrier, please include this information when you book a consultation. Options may be available.
Focus of the work
Common Topics
- Sexual concerns, pleasure, and communication
- Premarital conversations about intimacy and partnership
- Sexual communication and vulnerability
- Sexual shame and religious or cultural messages about sex
- Intimacy after major life changes
- Sexuality, identity, and exploring what you want
- Reconnecting sexually and relationally
- Pleasure, agency, and authentic sexual expression
The process
Starting sex and intimacy therapy
Sex and intimacy therapy is available to individuals and couples who want to explore desire, sexual communication, shame, closeness, or changes in their sexual relationship. You can begin with a specific concern or with the sense that something is difficult to talk about.
I think of a first session like starting a puzzle: we first find the edge pieces and begin to see the outline. We will talk about what brings you in, what you hope to understand or change, and the attachment history and relationship patterns that may matter. We can touch on important topics and return to them with more time. The process is collaborative and direct, with room for therapeutic exercises, honest feedback, and regular practice between sessions. We notice what is happening, understand how it developed, experiment with responses that fit your values, and practice integrating what works. The focus remains adaptable to you and, if you attend as a couple, to your relationship. Sex therapy here is psychotherapy, not medical evaluation or physical treatment. Physical symptoms may also call for medical care.
With intention
A more honest conversation about intimacy.
You do not need to arrive with perfect language or a neatly defined concern. We can begin with what feels difficult, absent, confusing, or hard to say.
I welcome clients exploring a wide range of consensual relationship and sexual experiences and identities. The work is shaped around what matters to you, your values, and the relationship you want to create.
Questions, answered
Frequently asked questions
What does sex and intimacy therapy involve?
It is a place to explore desire, communication, vulnerability, trust, sexuality, and the patterns that affect closeness. The work is collaborative and shaped around your concerns.
Can I come alone if my concern involves my relationship?
Yes. Individual intimacy therapy can help you clarify your experience, understand your patterns, and consider how you want to show up in the relationship.
Do you work with mismatched desire?
Yes. Mismatched desire can involve many relational, emotional, cultural, and practical factors. Counseling can help make room for a more curious and less blaming conversation. Explore sex therapy for sexual concerns and more
Can intimacy and sex therapy be for single individuals?
Yes. Sex and sexuality are personal expressions and experiences. Single, partnered, or otherwise, this exploration is yours to take, for yourself.
A meaningful next step
Ready to do something differently?
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